Here, let me update you...
In February we found out that after 5 days of high dose meds, my ovaries had not produced eggs. So my doctor suggested we continue them for 5 more days and come back. I remember thinking "Awesome, you want me to pay MORE money just to feel even MORE like a crazy person, just for a MORE bad news in 5 days... lovely." But, because I was told to do it, we took the medicines for 5 more days. Well... guess what... we had eggs! Not 1 egg, not 2 eggs, not even 3 eggs... but we had 12 eggs!!! Let me explain something in case you don't know this - a healthy "normal" woman makes one egg every cycle. That egg gets fertilized by sperm and creates a baby. Occasionally women will hyper-ovulate and produce 2 eggs that will cause fraternal twins. But identical twins are created when that one egg splits into 2 cells creating 2 identical lives. So, we now have the chance for 12+ babies. UMM... NO! We panicked and freaked out a little bit and went through some options with my doctor. He told us to wait for 3 days and come back. In his years of practice, he has never seen anyone respond as quickly as I did. I went from not responding, to over responding! So, in his mind, hopefully some eggs would shrink over the next 3 days and leave us with a few very healthy eggs! So we waited... Prayed prayed and prayed some more. Well, We were down from 12... but only to 5. FIVE EGGS! That is a possibility of FIVE BABIES! Not to mention the possibility of them splitting to more babies! That's a very slight chance, but still a risky chance. No, I don't want to be Octomom, but who doesn't like the odds of 1 of 5 eggs taking and creating a life!? 5 was not near as scary to me as 12. I was ready to go! Sadly, my doctor refused to do the insemination. 5 eggs is just too risky for their policy. So we were told not to touch each other... actually, we were told "I'm sorry, I know it's Valentine's Day, but you need to sleep in separate rooms!" Well... I'm sorry Doc, but that didn't happen. I put my trust in God's plan and told myself "whatever happens is supposed to happen." And went about our Valentine's plans and family making plans... Well... it didn't happen. So that obviously wasn't God's plan. A
March was a little different. Same meds, but instead of doing them for 10 days at the max dose, we tried 9 days at an ever-so-slightly lower dose... PERFECT! We had 2 beautiful eggs. One on each ovary. My lining and eggs both looked "perfect" according to my doctor and nurse. I jumped for joy. I was ecstatic! We went ahead with the insemination and played the 2-week waiting game. Well... right on time... negative. It failed... again.
That was our last (already paid for) insemination. Another negative. So now what? Keep paying $1000 for medication (because my new insurance doesn't cover it), $150 per ultrasound (most months we have needed 3 ultrasounds), $50 semen collection and cleaning/ thawing and $300 for the insemination... Keep paying about $1800 a month for doctor visits and insemination or move onto the idea of IVF? Easier said than done... the average cost of IVF is $14,000+... not covered by insurance... due all at once... out of pocket. Does your pocket have an extra $14,000+ in it? Mine doesn't... So far, we have spent well over that in the past 4 years. Heck, we could have done IVF and adopted by now with the money we have spent... but that was over 4 years. Not in one day...
So, like I said, we are stuck in the "what now" phase... until we come up with $14,000+
